The 10 Things Successful People Live By Before They Make It

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The 10 Things Successful People Live By Before They Make It

 

1. They didn’t use excuses.

We all have two voices. There’s the voice that tells us to work hard, to focus on the task at hand and to finish it before we move on to the next. And to finish it well.

We also have the voice that tells us to take a break, to think about what’s on TV, or to visit a site that we like to visit that entertains us – whether it’s ESPN.com or facebook.

In life we’re the victim of injustice from time to time. It could be a promotion that we deserve but don’t get. No matter who we are, we’re going to be treated unfairly at some point. We can either feel sorry for ourselves, or push forward and put it behind us – even use it as motivation.

Nelson Mandela could have used his unjust imprisonment as an excuse to give into his anger. Instead, he used it as an opportunity to learn, grow, and eventually free others.

Listen to your excuses. Understand why you have them. Then figure out how you can use them for good.

2. It wasn’t just about them.

‘Things’ can be a motivator, they can even be a reward, but they can’t be the motivator. The truly successful in life always get there because they created change in the lives of others, not just their own.

If something drives you that is greater than just the ‘ends’, we’re going to work harder, longer, and we’re going to give more of ourselves to our project.

Yes we can make money when we have the primary goal of making money. Some might even use that money for good – which is awesome. But there’s no fulfillment in simply making money. And isn’t that the point?

3. Early mornings and late nights.

People who have achieved true success in their lives have worked for it.

This might come at the detriment of other areas of their lives, such as family or social life. But their mission is first and foremost. Until it’s complete, everything else comes second.

There’s literally no substitute for hard work. Abraham Lincoln said, “Things may come to those who wait… but only the things left by those who hustle.” If you want to be successful, you’re going to have to out hustle everyone else.

4. The greatest commodity.

Energy is a huge commodity that is often not talked about. Yes, energy in the sense of fuel and electricity is talked about everywhere, but I’m talking about our own energy levels.

The fact is that the more energy we have, the easier it is to focus, and the higher the quality of our work is.

One of Richard Branson‘s ‘key’s to success’ is staying in great physical shape. So would raised energy levels be the greatest benefit to working out? It may be.

Keeping physically fit gives us greater blood-flow to our brain, enhanced alertness and improved focus. Make training a routine part of your life and increase your chances at success – in every meaning of the word.

5. Principles.

History will be kind to me. For I intend to write it.

Winston Churchill had principles. The difference between him and the rest of us, is that he stuck to his principles at all costs. He didn’t waver when they weren’t popular – an extreme rarity in politics.

What are your principles? All of us should have them, know what they are, and live our lives bythem.

One of Apple’s principles is to bring change to the world through technology, and they do it with every product they release.

Identify what principles you have that guide your life through tough times, and when things couldn’t be any better. They shouldn’t change, and at your core, neither should you.

6. Wavering, yet unbreakable faith.

We all have moments of doubt. Even the best of us question if our dream is going to come true. The one thing that separates the truly successful from those who never reach their true potential is an unbreakable faith in the fact that what they’re doing is right.

Even if they have moments of doubt, they’re soon quelled, where other’s listen to that doubt and let it eat them up and finally they quit.

Have your moments of doubt. You’re human. Just don’t let that doubt eat you up. Instead let it motivate you to prove your optimism right.

7. A reason.

Many of the greatest accomplishments in the world were accomplished by insecure men and women, people who had something to prove to others. A desire to elevate their status and create change that was so strong, that failure is simply never and option.

Abraham Lincoln‘s reason(s) had to do a lot with his view of himself in relation to how other’s viewed him. Where others saw a poor, illiterate boy, Lincoln saw someone capable of achieving more, even if he had to do it completely on his own. He also saw the need for change. A nation that preached freedom wasn’t free. He saw something fundamentally wrong with this and set out to change it. His why wasn’t about him. Which in turn made him one of history’s great men.

Understand why. You have that reason to work when others sleep, to sacrifice a safe life for a risky one with no ceiling. Find it by asking why, and not stopping until you hit your core, emotional reason for wanting to change your status, or the status of others.

8. They persevered when others didn’t.

How does the guy who quit on his dream know how long it would’ve taken him to become a success? He doesn’t. None of us do. It could be tomorrow, or ten years from now.

What separates a lot of the great people we read about in our history books from those we’ve never heard of is the fact that they never quit. Quitting was never an option. They only stopped when they reached their dream. And even then, they created a new mission.

Take James J. Braddock, or even Nelson Mandela, for example. They didn’t achieve their greatness or success early on in their careers or in life like some. They achieved it after surviving. They survived while others literally died, or quit. In their cases it wasn’t just that they were the best, but they were the best because of what they endured. They were the last one’s standing.

We don’t know when our breakthrough will come. So don’t guarantee your failure by quitting. You can adapt, change, and evolve, but never, never, never quit.

9. Great people relentlessly studied their craft.

Tony Gwynn and Mike Tyson studied their craft as much as anyone. Gwynn spent hours upon hours studying opposing pitchers. He studied their patterns. He wasn’t the most athletic guy around, but he put his work in to be the best at what he did: hit baseballs.

When people think of Tyson, they think of an animal, but what we fail to see is the student. No one studied boxing like Tyson did. Watched more film than anyone in the history of the sport. He was a student first, a fighter second.

These great athletes studied film, but how can we perfect our craft?

Using myself as an example; much of my job has to do with writing, and obviously fitness. So, I study those two things. I read books about how to become a better writer, ways to connect with the reader, and I simply read great books written by authors who are much better at writing than I am. If you’re in sales, read and study sales. If you’re a marketer, then do the same with marketing.

Being a drone that simply goes through the motions is no way to achieve greatness. Assuming success is something you want, you have to study your craft, whatever it may be. Learn it inside and out. Build a wealth of knowledge. It’ll help you create great, inspiring, and unique work.

10. Risk.

No risk, no reward. Yes it’s an over-used, cliché of a phrase. But it’s true. Those who have achieved real success have often risked the most to get there.

There have been billions of people throughout history who have had the ability to achieve greatness, whether it was the talent or smarts, they had it. What they didn’t have was the guts to risk the life that they were living. They also didn’t have the work ethic to see their talent realized.

The greatest tragedy in life is wasted talent ~ A Bronx Tale

Your big, audacious dream might be to marry the girl of your dreams and have a family with her. You risk might be to leave the career that you love in order to support her and your family. Your dream might be to help millions live longer, healthier lives. Whatever your dream is, give it enough of a chance to be realized.

Risk if you truly want to see the reward.

Find your dream. Then risk everything to get it.

 

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21 Habits of Happy People – There is so much we can Learn

As I post this I am learning along with you.  I hope you enjoy these ideas.  I sure am!

 

Happiness is a habit – cultivate it.” ~ Elbert Hubbar

“Happiness is one aspiration all people share. No one wants to be sad and depressed.
We’ve all seen people who are always happy – even amidst agonizing life trials. I’m not saying happy people don’t feel grief, sorrow or sadness; they just don’t let it overtake their life. The following are 21 things happy people make a habit of doing:
1. Appreciate Life

Be thankful that you woke up alive each morning. Develop a childlike sense of wonder towards life. Focus on the beauty of every living thing. Make the most of each day. Don’t take anything for granted. Don’t sweat the small stuff.

2. Choose Friends Wisely

Surround yourself with happy, positive people who share your values and goals. Friends that have the same ethics as you will encourage you to achieve your dreams. They help you to feel good about yourself. They are there to lend a helping hand when needed.

3. Be Considerate

Accept others for who they are as well as where they are in life. Respect them for who they are. Touch them with a kind and generous spirit. Help when you are able, without trying to change the other person. Try to brighten the day of everyone you come into contact with.

4. Learn Continuously

Keep up to date with the latest news regarding your career and hobbies. Try new and daring things that has sparked your interest – such as dancing, skiing, surfing or sky-diving.

5. Creative Problem Solving

Don’t wallow in self-pity. As soon as you face a challenge get busy finding a solution. Don’t let the set backs affect your mood, instead see each new obstacle you face as an opportunity to make a positive change. Learn to trust your gut instincts – it’s almost always right.

6. Do What They Love

Some statistics show that 80% of people dislike their jobs! No wonder there’s so many unhappy people running around. We spend a great deal of our life working. Choose a career that you enjoy – the extra money of a job you detest isn’t worth it. Make time to enjoy your hobbies and pursue special interests.

7. Enjoy Life

Take the time to see the beauty around you. There’s more to life than work. Take time to smell the roses, watch a sunset or sunrise with a loved one, take a walk along the seashore, hike in the woods etc. Learn to live in the present moment and cherish it. Don’t live in the past or the future.

8. Laugh

Don’t take yourself – or life to seriously. You can find humor in just about any situation. Laugh at yourself – no one’s perfect. When appropriate laugh and make light of the circumstances. (Naturally there are times that you should be serious as it would be improper to laugh.)

9. Forgive

Holding a grudge will hurt no one but you. Forgive others for your own peace of mind. When you make a mistake – own up to it – learn from it – and FORGIVE yourself.

10. Gratitude

Develop an attitude of gratitude. Count your blessings; All of them – even the things that seem trivial. Be grateful for your home, your work and most importantly your family and friends. Take the time to tell them that you are happy they are in your life.

11. Invest in Relationships

Always make sure your loved ones know you love them even in times of conflict. Nurture and grow your relationships with your family and friends by making the time to spend with them. Don’t break your promises to them. Be supportive.

12. Keep Their Word

Honesty is the best policy. Every action and decision you make should be based on honesty. Be honest with yourself and with your loved ones.

13. Meditate

Meditation gives your very active brain a rest. When it’s rested you will have more energy and function at a higher level. Types of meditation include yoga, hypnosis, relaxation tapes, affirmations, visualization or just sitting in complete silence. Find something you enjoy and make the time to practice daily.

14. Mind Their Own Business

Concentrate on creating your life the way you want it. Take care of you and your family. Don’t get overly concerned with what other people are doing or saying. Don’t get caught up with gossip or name calling. Don’t judge. Everyone has a right to live their own life the way they want to – including you.

15. Optimism

See the glass as half full. Find the positive side of any given situation. It’s there – even though it may be hard to find. Know that everything happens for a reason, even though you may never know what the reason is. Steer clear of negative thoughts. If a negative thought creeps in – replace it with a positive thought.

16. Love Unconditionally

Accept others for who they are. You don’t put limitations on your love. Even though you may not always like the actions of your loved ones – you continue to love them.

17. Persistence

Never give up. Face each new challenge with the attitude that it will bring you one step closer to your goal. You will never fail, as long as you never give up. Focus on what you want, learn the required skills, make a plan to succeed and take action. We are always happiest while pursuing something of value to us.

18. Be Proactive

Accept what can not be changed. Happy people don’t waste energy on circumstances beyond their control. Accept your limitations as a human being. Determine how you can take control by creating the outcome you desire – rather than waiting to respond.

19. Self Care

Take care of your mind, body and health. Get regular medical check ups. Eat healthy and work out. Get plenty of rest. Drink lots of water. Exercise your mind by continually energizing it with interesting and exciting challenges.

20. Self Confidence

Don’t try to be someone that you’re not. After all no one likes a phony. Determine who you are in the inside – your own personal likes and dislikes. Be confident in who you are. Do the best you can and don’t second guess yourself.

21. Take Responsibility

Happy people know and understand that they are 100% responsible for their life. They take responsibility for their moods, attitude, thoughts, feelings, actions and words. They are the first to admit when they’ve made a mistake.

Begin today by taking responsibility for your happiness. Work on developing these habits as you own. The more you incorporate the above habits into your daily lifestyle – the happier you will be.

Most of all: BE TRUE TO YOURSELF.”

 

~ What FABULOUS last words of advice, Yes, Let us ALL ‘BE TRUE TO OURSELVES’ !!

I hope you enjoyed this lesson as much as I did.  I will be coming back to this often to remind myself where I need to be.

This is from : Mind Openerz – 21 Habits of Happy People

 

~~~Thee Gratitude Dude

 

Thank you Chopra Center and Thank You Sandy Hook Elementary

I wanted to say thank you to the Chopra Center.  I took the 21 Day Meditation Challenge and upon completing it I was inspired to create my own path of giving.  I began to give many of my Inspiration Angels away to people in need around the country and the world.  I then ventured out on November 26, 2012 to the local Shriner‘s Children’s hospital in Lexington KY and gave away more Angels and met some amazingly strong children.  And then after hearing of the tragedy in Newtown Connecticut, I created Inspiration Angels using the colors of Sandy Hook Elementary and I sent the teachers and staff all of them.

I then visited the UK Children’s Hospital on January 9, 2013.  I met some more awesome parents and children fighting various ailments and diseases. I handed out more Angels and I hope I was able to give some comfort to them knowing that there are still humans on this planet that do care about eachother.  This was a tough visit.  I saw a lot of pain both physical and mental.  I can not imagine being those parents having to watch their little ones going through so much.  It took a lot out of me but I had gotten several messages the day before on my page that helped give me strength. They were from some truly amazing people, the teachers and staff and some parents of Sandy Hook Elementary.  They told me that they had received my Inspiration Angels and that they LOVED them.  They actually told me that when they walk down the halls and see them hanging around the necks of other teachers and staff that it gives them comfort and makes them smile.

I am so grateful that I have been able to give them this.  If they are able to feel that way after going through such a terrible experience…I finally know now what the feeling of love and appreciation feels like.  At the end of this week I will be sending 100 more Inspiration Angels to Sandy Hook for the rest of the staff.  I am also dedicating $3 per Angel sold to the Newtown Memorial Fund.  Please give, anything you can.  You too, can make a difference.  You just have to take that first step and it starts with Love.  Thank you Chopra Center for opening my eyes to true Love.  If you can, come visit my page and leave some messages of love to the teachers and staff that have left comments on my page.  I know they would be touched.  Give Love.

TBT Creations (Thoughts Become Things) – Facebook Page

Inspiration Angels, $3 per Angel goes to Newtown Memorial Fund – Etsy Page

 

 

 

The Love List – Spread the word!

I have decided to begin creating a “Love List”.  Its something that I have been reading about lately that I think would help our country and the World to make it better in the new age.  We need to begin to start feeling the right feelings if we ever expect to get better results from our thoughts and actions.  Its not just what we think about but also how we feel when we think the thoughts we want to create.  My motto has been for the last few years “Thoughts Become Things” but I have been catching myself not adding the right feelings to those thoughts.  If we think amazing thoughts but lack the amazing feelings that should go along with those thoughts we are actually telling the Universe the opposite of what we really want.  Thoughts are the first step and feelings are the next step.  After that step comes the result, receiving.  If we think the right thoughts and feel the wrong feelings we are attracting those bad feelings along side the thoughts we want to create.  Then we are working against ourselves.  We start to think the awesome thoughts of what we want but then stick the resentment or worry of not getting fulfillment from those thoughts and then it begins to work against us in the worst way.  That bad pit in your stomach you feel when you really want something because you begin to imagine what would happen if it doesn’t come to fruition is how the Universe will read your message.

So lets begin by writing a list of what we love or who we love.  Even writing what we want to happen to those that we love.  You don’t have to only write about yourself.  If you write about what joy it would be to see or hear your friend or loved one get that promotion or get a new car or whatever, you are still sending out a great feeling of joy and happiness.  You are giving those feelings to the Universe and you will receive those feelings back to you and more!  If you express yourself to that person about how awesome it would be if they got that promotion or that new car they really wanted, those same people that will receive that good news will only be able to thank you for your support along the way.  That message is now being sent to the Universe by not just one person but by two, you and your friend or loved one.  Do you see how much more powerful these feelings can be?  Even if they do not receive those things they can only still thank you for your support during that process.

You can even do this for those that you may not particularly feel comfortable to support or be around.  But like the quote says, “Love conquers all”.  Even if you have had bad blood with this person or they have seemed to not make your life any easier, you can still find ways of gratitude for them.  Usually the recommendation is to just walk away from these type of people.  Leave them alone to suffer their own pain from the pain they force onto others but in some cases you might have to stay connected to these people.  Whether they are siblings or other family members or they could be ex-spouses that you need to stay in contact with due to having children with them.  This last example runs very close to home.  I have an ex-wife that has not made things easy on me.  I have fallen into the trap that I always wanted to avoid but with me not using the law of attraction to my advantage I have helped create a bad situation.  I won’t go into details but my resentment for the things she has done has created reactions from me that I wish I could have done differently.  I have allowed a lot of poor decisions to be made.  I concentrated on the bad instead of a solution.  So to show you that I practice what I preach, moments before typing this blog entry I emailed my ex with a note of gratitude.  I have looked past the pain of the last couple years and I want to make a change.  I found things that I can be grateful for in her.  I told her and felt the correct feelings while telling her these things.  We can not be prisoners of our pasts any longer.  Even if she may not want to accept what I wrote due to her still wanting to be upset or hateful for whatever she still wants to hold on to, its now out there for her and the Universe to read.  You can not change the way someone else feels about a situation until you accept the way you have felt about it and then move on towards a positive resolution.  The first step is to show appreciation.  And feel appreciation.  This was my first step.

I will be creating a “Love List” on a big poster board tonight.  When I am done, whether it be tonight or tomorrow, I will post it to show you my example.  I hope you follow suit.  Only good things can come from it.  But make sure you are feeling the right feelings while creating your list.  That is the key, feeling Love.

Happy New Year my Friends, Make it an Epic one!

I want to thank everyone that has helped me get through this very difficult year.  I want to thank everyone that will help me along the way this upcoming New Year 2013!  I plan on making this one an EPIC year, the beginning of MANY EPIC years to come!  Filled with hope and love.

I want to thank those that have opened my eyes to the fact that I can not change those that don’t want to be, I can only show love and move on and wish them the happiest of lives.

I have made many mistakes and I am owning up to them and correcting the ones I can and learning from them all.  I love my wife and my family, my children, my parents(past & present), my siblings(past & present) and my friends(past & present)….I love you all.  I am here changing my life for the better and I intend to do so by helping others.  With good intentions motivating me I will succeed in everything I put love and effort into.

I am evolving and willing continue to do so until the day I leave to the great hereafter, which is THE ULTIMATE evolution.  Don’t stop learning, listening and loving.  Thank you to everyone!  Have an AMAZING 2013!  I know I will AND SO WILL YOU!

Love & Be Thankful

Love is contagious, Spread it! Newtown Connecticut needs all of the love you can send!

My heart breaks but it is nothing compared to what they are going through. It is the least I can do. Love is contagious, Spread it!  Here are the Inspiration Angels that are on their way to Newtown, Connecticut.

TBT Creations

TBT Creations

TBT Creations : Facebook Page

TBT Creations sending Inspiration Angels to Newtown Connecticut

I have the Inspiration Angels packaged with names of some of the staff of Sandy Hook Elementary School labelled with each Angel. It takes a lot out of me just to write their names down and have to leave a few out due to this catastrophe. I hope they will get to them..I know they will get to them and when they do it will be right when they need them. I wish this was under different circumstances but I know I am doing the work given to me. Now I have to write the letter that will go with them. This may take a while to get down, not that I will leave them a book but I may have to stop from time to time to collect myself. Thank you all for your support and kind words. Please take some time when you can to stop over to the Facebook page to lend a kind word and some support to that community :

You can find TBT Creations on Facebook.
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Angel 013 (Photo credit: Juliett-Foxtrott)

“I am Adam Lanza’s Mother” It’s time to talk about mental illness. Written by Liza Long

Friday’s horrific national tragedy—the murder of 20 children and six adults at Sandy Hook Elementary School in New Town, Connecticut—has ignited a new discussion on violence in America. In kitchens and coffee shops across the country, we tearfully debate the many faces of violence in America: gun culture, media violence, lack of mental health services, overt and covert wars abroad, religion, politics and the way we raise our children. Liza Long, a writer based in Boise, says it’s easy to talk about guns. But it’s time to talk about mental illness.

Three days before 20 year-old Adam Lanza killed his mother, then opened fire on a classroom full of Connecticut kindergartners, my 13-year old son Michael (name changed) missed his bus because he was wearing the wrong color pants.

“I can wear these pants,” he said, his tone increasingly belligerent, the black-hole pupils of his eyes swallowing the blue irises.

“They are navy blue,” I told him. “Your school’s dress code says black or khaki pants only.”

“They told me I could wear these,” he insisted. “You’re a stupid bitch. I can wear whatever pants I want to. This is America. I have rights!”

“You can’t wear whatever pants you want to,” I said, my tone affable, reasonable. “And you definitely cannot call me a stupid bitch. You’re grounded from electronics for the rest of the day. Now get in the car, and I will take you to school.”

I live with a son who is mentally ill. I love my son. But he terrifies me.

A few weeks ago, Michael pulled a knife and threatened to kill me and then himself after I asked him to return his overdue library books. His 7 and 9 year old siblings knew the safety plan—they ran to the car and locked the doors before I even asked them to. I managed to get the knife from Michael, then methodically collected all the sharp objects in the house into a single Tupperware container that now travels with me. Through it all, he continued to scream insults at me and threaten to kill or hurt me.

That conflict ended with three burly police officers and a paramedic wrestling my son onto a gurney for an expensive ambulance ride to the local emergency room. The mental hospital didn’t have any beds that day, and Michael calmed down nicely in the ER, so they sent us home with a prescription for Zyprexa and a follow-up visit with a local pediatric psychiatrist.

We still don’t know what’s wrong with Michael. Autism spectrum, ADHD, Oppositional Defiant or Intermittent Explosive Disorder have all been tossed around at various meetings with probation officers and social workers and counselors and teachers and school administrators. He’s been on a slew of antipsychotic and mood altering pharmaceuticals, a Russian novel of behavioral plans. Nothing seems to work.

At the start of seventh grade, Michael was accepted to an accelerated program for highly gifted math and science students. His IQ is off the charts. When he’s in a good mood, he will gladly bend your ear on subjects ranging from Greek mythology to the differences between Einsteinian and Newtonian physics to Doctor Who. He’s in a good mood most of the time. But when he’s not, watch out. And it’s impossible to predict what will set him off.

Several weeks into his new junior high school, Michael began exhibiting increasingly odd and threatening behaviors at school. We decided to transfer him to the district’s most restrictive behavioral program, a contained school environment where children who can’t function in normal classrooms can access their right to free public babysitting from 7:30-1:50 Monday through Friday until they turn 18.

The morning of the pants incident, Michael continued to argue with me on the drive. He would occasionally apologize and seem remorseful. Right before we turned into his school parking lot, he said, “Look, Mom, I’m really sorry. Can I have video games back today?”

“No way,” I told him. “You cannot act the way you acted this morning and think you can get your electronic privileges back that quickly.”

His face turned cold, and his eyes were full of calculated rage. “Then I’m going to kill myself,” he said. “I’m going to jump out of this car right now and kill myself.”

That was it. After the knife incident, I told him that if he ever said those words again, I would take him straight to the mental hospital, no ifs, ands, or buts. I did not respond, except to pull the car into the opposite lane, turning left instead of right.

“Where are you taking me?” he said, suddenly worried. “Where are we going?”

“You know where we are going,” I replied.

“No! You can’t do that to me! You’re sending me to hell! You’re sending me straight to hell!”

I pulled up in front of the hospital, frantically waiving for one of the clinicians who happened to be standing outside. “Call the police,” I said. “Hurry.”

Michael was in a full-blown fit by then, screaming and hitting. I hugged him close so he couldn’t escape from the car. He bit me several times and repeatedly jabbed his elbows into my rib cage. I’m still stronger than he is, but I won’t be for much longer.

The police came quickly and carried my son screaming and kicking into the bowels of the hospital. I started to shake, and tears filled my eyes as I filled out the paperwork—“Were there any difficulties with… at what age did your child… were there any problems with.. has your child ever experienced.. does your child have…”

At least we have health insurance now. I recently accepted a position with a local college, giving up my freelance career because when you have a kid like this, you need benefits. You’ll do anything for benefits. No individual insurance plan will cover this kind of thing.

For days, my son insisted that I was lying—that I made the whole thing up so that I could get rid of him. The first day, when I called to check up on him, he said, “I hate you. And I’m going to get my revenge as soon as I get out of here.”

By day three, he was my calm, sweet boy again, all apologies and promises to get better. I’ve heard those promises for years. I don’t believe them anymore.

On the intake form, under the question, “What are your expectations for treatment?” I wrote, “I need help.”

And I do. This problem is too big for me to handle on my own. Sometimes there are no good options. So you just pray for grace and trust that in hindsight, it will all make sense.

I am sharing this story because I am Adam Lanza’s mother. I am Dylan Klebold’s and Eric Harris’s mother. I am Jason Holmes’s mother. I am Jared Loughner’s mother. I am Seung-Hui Cho’s mother. And these boys—and their mothers—need help. In the wake of another horrific national tragedy, it’s easy to talk about guns. But it’s time to talk about mental illness.

According to Mother Jones, since 1982, 61 mass murders involving firearms have occurred throughout the country. Of these, 43 of the killers were white males, and only one was a woman. Mother Jones focused on whether the killers obtained their guns legally (most did). But this highly visible sign of mental illness should lead us to consider how many people in the U.S. live in fear, like I do.

When I asked my son’s social worker about my options, he said that the only thing I could do was to get Michael charged with a crime. “If he’s back in the system, they’ll create a paper trail,” he said. “That’s the only way you’re ever going to get anything done. No one will pay attention to you unless you’ve got charges.”

I don’t believe my son belongs in jail. The chaotic environment exacerbates Michael’s sensitivity to sensory stimuli and doesn’t deal with the underlying pathology. But it seems like the United States is using prison as the solution of choice for mentally ill people. According to Human Rights Watch, the number of mentally ill inmates in U.S. prisons quadrupled from 2000 to 2006, and it continues to rise—in fact, the rate of inmate mental illness is five times greater (56 percent) than in the non-incarcerated population.

With state-run treatment centers and hospitals shuttered, prison is now the last resort for the mentally ill—Rikers Island, the LA County Jail and Cook County Jail in Illinois housed the nation’s largest treatment centers in 2011.

No one wants to send a 13-year old genius who loves Harry Potter and his snuggle animal collection to jail. But our society, with its stigma on mental illness and its broken healthcare system, does not provide us with other options. Then another tortured soul shoots up a fast food restaurant. A mall. A kindergarten classroom. And we wring our hands and say, “Something must be done.”

I agree that something must be done. It’s time for a meaningful, nation-wide conversation about mental health. That’s the only way our nation can ever truly heal.

God help me. God help Michael. God help us all.

(Originally published at The Anarchist Soccer Mom.)

liza long is an author, musician, and erstwhile classicist. she is also a single mother of four bright, loved children, one of whom has special needs.
This article needs to read and shared by ALL and finally it needs to understood before it is too late……again.

Sandy Elementary Shooting and Gun Laws, Who are these laws really protecting?

I can barely speak nor type about the tragedy in Newton, Conn.  An Elementary school? REALLY???!!!!  A mall yesterday and now a children’s school today….when are these “Right to bare arms” laws going to start protecting us??? Whose Constitutional rights are being protected?  Ours or the killers?  The victims or the murderer?

We keep hearing about how “we” have to protect our Gun Rights so we can Protect ourselves from those that want to hurt us but ALL I keep seeing is how those Gun Rights keep guns in the hands of those that WANT to harm us…when I hear a story of how someone with those same Gun rights have PREVENTED somebody from creating this type of horrendous act then I will be on board but until then we need to TAKE AWAY the guns FIRST and then give them to those that are mentally stable…

AGAIN GUNS HAVE NEVER PREVENTED THIS KIND OF THING FROM HAPPENING, IT HAS ONLY CREATED THE PROBLEM!!!

AND NO, ABSOLUTELY NOT, IT IS NOT THE ANSWER TO ARM OUR TEACHERS, SALES CLERKS AND CITIZENS!!!

WE WERE ALL ARMED ONCE REMEMBER? IT WAS CALLED THE OLD WEST AND THERE WERE KILLINGS EVERY MINUTE OF THE DAY! HENCE THE REASON GUN LAWS WERE MADE!!!

I need to wrap my head around this before I can write anymore.  I have a 4 yr old daughter with me right now and I have a 10 yr old son that lives with his mother, my ex-wife…..I can’t imagine getting the phone call that about 18 sets of parents have gotten today.  Please remember that when you are standing up for your rights to have and to hold your weapons…..Please remember that your children are the ones that you need to have and to hold on to because there are too many families today that can not do that any longer.

We all need to close our eyes and think hard about this and learn and know what is truly important : LOVE.  Love one another.  Feel amazing feelings and know that LOVE is the only way to prevent these type of tragedies.  You don’t need a license to get LOVE.  You just need patience and understanding.  Access to LOVE instead of GUNS could have prevent this from happening.  We will probably find out that the gunman was mentally unstable and killed his parents, the body at his home and his mother that worked in the school….maybe they were in the process of getting him help or maybe they ignored the signs until it was too late…either way if you know someone that shows signs of being mentally unstable PLEASE MAKE SURE YOUR GUNS ARE NOT WITHIN THEIR REACH OR IF YOU KNOW THAT THEY HAVE GUNS AND BULLET PROOF VESTS THEN CALL THE DAMN POLICE!!!!  TELL SOMEONE!!!  COMMUNICATE BEFORE THIS EVER HAPPENS AGAIN!  STOP THINKING IT WON’T HAPPEN THERE!  STOP THINKING “HE” OR “SHE” WOULD NEVER……well they can and they would and they will if nothing is done to prevent it.

Anybody try Numerology before? John Lennon did and it could have saved his Life!

Today is the anniversary of John Lennon‘s death.  I have learned that he was into Numerology and he was 15 minutes shy of Midnight on the 9th of December 1980.  His life path number was 9.  He was 15 minutes away from missing the assassin.  In his confession, Mark David Chapman mentions how late it was getting and he was just about to leave when he saw John and Yoko’s taxi pull up.  John left the party he was at early due to not feeling well.  It was a sign.  He listened to it but perceived it wrong.  If he would have waiting 15 more minutes before heading home, he may still be alive today.  In the picture below you can see Mark David Chapman met him as John left for the party giving the asshole confidence he could actually find himself close enough to kill him.  Fifteen minutes man…..damn it John!

Lennon signing Chapman's Double Fantasy album ...

Lennon signing Chapman’s Double Fantasy album a few hours before the shooting (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

I was surprised at what I found after signing up for this free numerology reading.  It is quite strange and amazing how many things tied together so tightly.  I am opening up with my reading to show everyone that we are all connected and should listen to the signs and know we are all here for a reason.  I am getting closer to my path…or have I already found it?  Enjoy and if you are intrigued by this I welcome you to find out for yourself.  It is free so why not?

This is what my number told me at :  http://www.numerologist.com :

Jim, your Life Path of 9 …

You are a deeply spiritual individual who often displays a deep interest in religion or the occult at a very early age. In fact many nines grow up to be psychics, healers, priests and nuns. You probably feel responsible for keeping up the morality or spirit of mankind in some way, or even responsible for their very souls. This is why many nines also end up working for the law as policemen or judges or in some aspect of spiritual or psychological counseling.

The emphasis of your life path is on finding ways to communicate the divinity of man in a practical context. As many nines are also very artistic, this connection with the higher powers might also be expressed through a talent such as writing, music or painting.

At some point in your life you have probably sworn to yourself to make this world a better place. You are extremely compassionate and feel above the matters that you feel causes factions of society to be divided. You are very aware of feeling as insignificant as a grain of sand in the Universe and believe that materialism, prejudice and lust just don’t matter in the long run.

You have a charismatic and very open personality that attracts you a lot of friends. You are very social, sometimes at the expense of your other responsibilities. Sometimes a number nine might take too much time out during the day “to smell the flowers” and incur the resentment of those that are left to pick up the slack.

Your attitude towards life in general is very selfless and you usually have a good connection with God or a higher power. However often the number 9 faces a unique challenge at some point in his or her life that seems to be a test of faith. Usually this incident takes the form of a devastating personal loss, disease or some sort of tragedy. This triggers a period of time that lasts a few years that is often called the “dark night of the soul.” It is usually during this period of your life that you find the extreme courage and strength to become what is called a wounded healer.

Your life may seem too tough to handle at times which makes you vulnerable to finding substitutes for the family unit. As you are naturally very lonely and insecure, you are particularly vulnerable to joining a cult or becoming fanatical in the religious sense.

If you are a number nine you may find your life seems more difficult than others. This is because it is common human nature to take advantage of your compassion, empathy and generosity. It may seem unfair to you that others do not appreciate the spiritual gifts that you have to offer, especially when you demand so little materially from the world. This is part of the problematic path of the number 9 who is often fated to learn that the path of true compassionate does not necessarily result in spiritual rewards for the healer either.

Although you may feel quite clear about your divine purpose and goals in life, others may perceive you as weird or spacey. This is why it is often difficult for a number 9 to keep a job for long. Relationships might also be very difficult for a 9 to sustain, as this particular path is a rather lonely one. Part of the 9’s spiritual development is usually being presented with situations that force them to let go of emotional situations and connections that might interfere with the higher purpose that the cosmos has in store for them.

Jim, your Expression of 6 …

Your Potential Natural Talents and Abilities

You are a peace loving, harmonious individual who is a natural born diplomat. You detest conflict and will bend over backwards to make others happy. The ultimate height of your personal self expression is healing. Nothing gives you more satisfaction then knowing you have corrected a situation that was whirling out of balance.

You express who you are by caring for others. This is why so many sixes are doctors, healers, counselors, psychologists, policeman and therapists. Your philosophy usually relates to the idea that the world can be healed of all its ills if we heal one person at a time.

You have a brilliant, creative mind and many different talents but chances are you will forsake a career in the limelight to work in humble, yet helpful occupations. You are quite philosophical and believe that one should sacrifice oneself for the good of all.

You excel at making others feel good about themselves and have the ability to instill new hope in lost hearts with a kind touch or wise words. You are also a very affectionate person and comfort others with your easygoing nature. Others are attracted by your empathy and your friends often seek you out for advice.

You make a wonderful parent and teacher and have a way with children. At some point in your life you may find yourself coaching, mentoring or adopting a child or a teenager.

You are naturally full of vitality and enthusiasm. You exude a personal charisma that makes members of the opposite sex consider you to be a “catch.” Once you are caught you are usually loyal to that one person for your entire life.

Honesty and openness is very important in your relationships and if someone breaches your trust you are not likely to speak to them ever again.

You consider yourself to be a very ethical and moral individual and are deeply pained by any situation that falls into a moral gray area.

You are also deeply spiritual and have a great faith in a higher power. However when that power seems to let you down you have the power to spiral down into a deep depression. As you are all about balance, you are a nightmare to be with when life knocks you out of balance. You may express your bitterness at being let down by God with addiction, codependent or destructive behaviors.

Sometimes you may also mistakenly believe that your mission on earth is to set things right. This can lead to a fanatical need to prove a point or get revenge on the individuals or organizations that you think are causing the disharmony for yourself and others in the first place. Many activists and cult leaders are number 6’s who have succumbed to this kind of black and white thinking.

On a less extreme level, your concern for others may be perceived as interfering or meddling as you just can’t help yourself when it comes to helping others. One of your life challenges is to let others make their own mistakes rather than trying to save them from themselves.

You often dress conservatively and are humble in your appearance. This is because you spend so much time focusing on others rather than yourself. Ironically, you may be good at caring for others but not so good at caring for yourself. If you are a six it is important for you to take time out to pamper yourself every now and then as your tendency to overwork yourself can lead to health problems in the future.

Jim, your Soul Urge of 9 …

What You Desire To Be, To Have, and To Do In Your Life

The highest expression of your soul’s urge is to connect in a mystical way with others. Although your aspirations are lofty, you are also a humanitarian who is often gifted with a sharp intuition and keen analytical skills. Often you give up opportunities that should be yours, simply to help another. This is because your faith in yourself, god and the future is so strong that you live by your conviction that the universe is always unfolding as it should.

Others simply do not possess your spiritual sophistication and may be amused or repelled by what they see as your irrational talk or beliefs. You may be accused of being stupid or foolish simply because you won’t take the bait (of a job or money) at the expense of your ethics. Compared to the other numbers, you excel at letting go of lovers or opportunities simply because you know you can’t take emotions and material goods with you when you die.

As you are driven more by compassion than common sense, you are the first to fall on your sword for a worthy cause. You may often be broke because you see money only as a tool of change. You would much rather spend money on art, charity or a trip. In fact, ostentatious displays of wealth anger and disgust you because your ideal is a world where all humans are equal.

You might appear very eccentric to others who don’t quite understand your fascination with the spiritual world or your insistence on being a seeker of truth. Furthermore nines tend to get carried away when it comes to trying to heal or connect to others. The biggest mistake you could make is to try and be an “agent of karma” by meddling or interfering in other people’s affairs.

As you are so talented psychically, you often become a liability in business simply because people in authority resent your ability to perceive their secrets. You rarely rise very high on the corporate ladder simply because others see you as a threat to their cloak of political intrigue.

You have a soul that must be continually assured and fed with new sources of spiritual information. To stay healthy, your psyche may require that you make special trips to holy or mystical places. You may have to seek out special teaching to help you understand and cultivate your talents so that you are in control, as opposed to terrorized by them. Being able to foresee the future or see through other people is often painful, so some therapy might be required in your life to help you detach from your own sensitivity.

One of the sins you are most vulnerable to is spiritual pride. This can bring you situations that cause your faith to be seriously tested or where your pride can take a big fall. Many nines often find themselves subject to a lesson in becoming humble by the cosmos simply because they were too boastful of their talents. Making money off of your psychic talents may also cause you some problems, as part of your path is to heal without the expectation of reward. If you are working professionally as a psychic and are a nine, then remember to tithe at least one tenth of your earnings towards a worthy cause. However the highest calling of your soul urge is to share your intuitive talents for free.