The 10 Things Successful People Live By Before They Make It

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The 10 Things Successful People Live By Before They Make It

 

1. They didn’t use excuses.

We all have two voices. There’s the voice that tells us to work hard, to focus on the task at hand and to finish it before we move on to the next. And to finish it well.

We also have the voice that tells us to take a break, to think about what’s on TV, or to visit a site that we like to visit that entertains us – whether it’s ESPN.com or facebook.

In life we’re the victim of injustice from time to time. It could be a promotion that we deserve but don’t get. No matter who we are, we’re going to be treated unfairly at some point. We can either feel sorry for ourselves, or push forward and put it behind us – even use it as motivation.

Nelson Mandela could have used his unjust imprisonment as an excuse to give into his anger. Instead, he used it as an opportunity to learn, grow, and eventually free others.

Listen to your excuses. Understand why you have them. Then figure out how you can use them for good.

2. It wasn’t just about them.

‘Things’ can be a motivator, they can even be a reward, but they can’t be the motivator. The truly successful in life always get there because they created change in the lives of others, not just their own.

If something drives you that is greater than just the ‘ends’, we’re going to work harder, longer, and we’re going to give more of ourselves to our project.

Yes we can make money when we have the primary goal of making money. Some might even use that money for good – which is awesome. But there’s no fulfillment in simply making money. And isn’t that the point?

3. Early mornings and late nights.

People who have achieved true success in their lives have worked for it.

This might come at the detriment of other areas of their lives, such as family or social life. But their mission is first and foremost. Until it’s complete, everything else comes second.

There’s literally no substitute for hard work. Abraham Lincoln said, “Things may come to those who wait… but only the things left by those who hustle.” If you want to be successful, you’re going to have to out hustle everyone else.

4. The greatest commodity.

Energy is a huge commodity that is often not talked about. Yes, energy in the sense of fuel and electricity is talked about everywhere, but I’m talking about our own energy levels.

The fact is that the more energy we have, the easier it is to focus, and the higher the quality of our work is.

One of Richard Branson‘s ‘key’s to success’ is staying in great physical shape. So would raised energy levels be the greatest benefit to working out? It may be.

Keeping physically fit gives us greater blood-flow to our brain, enhanced alertness and improved focus. Make training a routine part of your life and increase your chances at success – in every meaning of the word.

5. Principles.

History will be kind to me. For I intend to write it.

Winston Churchill had principles. The difference between him and the rest of us, is that he stuck to his principles at all costs. He didn’t waver when they weren’t popular – an extreme rarity in politics.

What are your principles? All of us should have them, know what they are, and live our lives bythem.

One of Apple’s principles is to bring change to the world through technology, and they do it with every product they release.

Identify what principles you have that guide your life through tough times, and when things couldn’t be any better. They shouldn’t change, and at your core, neither should you.

6. Wavering, yet unbreakable faith.

We all have moments of doubt. Even the best of us question if our dream is going to come true. The one thing that separates the truly successful from those who never reach their true potential is an unbreakable faith in the fact that what they’re doing is right.

Even if they have moments of doubt, they’re soon quelled, where other’s listen to that doubt and let it eat them up and finally they quit.

Have your moments of doubt. You’re human. Just don’t let that doubt eat you up. Instead let it motivate you to prove your optimism right.

7. A reason.

Many of the greatest accomplishments in the world were accomplished by insecure men and women, people who had something to prove to others. A desire to elevate their status and create change that was so strong, that failure is simply never and option.

Abraham Lincoln‘s reason(s) had to do a lot with his view of himself in relation to how other’s viewed him. Where others saw a poor, illiterate boy, Lincoln saw someone capable of achieving more, even if he had to do it completely on his own. He also saw the need for change. A nation that preached freedom wasn’t free. He saw something fundamentally wrong with this and set out to change it. His why wasn’t about him. Which in turn made him one of history’s great men.

Understand why. You have that reason to work when others sleep, to sacrifice a safe life for a risky one with no ceiling. Find it by asking why, and not stopping until you hit your core, emotional reason for wanting to change your status, or the status of others.

8. They persevered when others didn’t.

How does the guy who quit on his dream know how long it would’ve taken him to become a success? He doesn’t. None of us do. It could be tomorrow, or ten years from now.

What separates a lot of the great people we read about in our history books from those we’ve never heard of is the fact that they never quit. Quitting was never an option. They only stopped when they reached their dream. And even then, they created a new mission.

Take James J. Braddock, or even Nelson Mandela, for example. They didn’t achieve their greatness or success early on in their careers or in life like some. They achieved it after surviving. They survived while others literally died, or quit. In their cases it wasn’t just that they were the best, but they were the best because of what they endured. They were the last one’s standing.

We don’t know when our breakthrough will come. So don’t guarantee your failure by quitting. You can adapt, change, and evolve, but never, never, never quit.

9. Great people relentlessly studied their craft.

Tony Gwynn and Mike Tyson studied their craft as much as anyone. Gwynn spent hours upon hours studying opposing pitchers. He studied their patterns. He wasn’t the most athletic guy around, but he put his work in to be the best at what he did: hit baseballs.

When people think of Tyson, they think of an animal, but what we fail to see is the student. No one studied boxing like Tyson did. Watched more film than anyone in the history of the sport. He was a student first, a fighter second.

These great athletes studied film, but how can we perfect our craft?

Using myself as an example; much of my job has to do with writing, and obviously fitness. So, I study those two things. I read books about how to become a better writer, ways to connect with the reader, and I simply read great books written by authors who are much better at writing than I am. If you’re in sales, read and study sales. If you’re a marketer, then do the same with marketing.

Being a drone that simply goes through the motions is no way to achieve greatness. Assuming success is something you want, you have to study your craft, whatever it may be. Learn it inside and out. Build a wealth of knowledge. It’ll help you create great, inspiring, and unique work.

10. Risk.

No risk, no reward. Yes it’s an over-used, cliché of a phrase. But it’s true. Those who have achieved real success have often risked the most to get there.

There have been billions of people throughout history who have had the ability to achieve greatness, whether it was the talent or smarts, they had it. What they didn’t have was the guts to risk the life that they were living. They also didn’t have the work ethic to see their talent realized.

The greatest tragedy in life is wasted talent ~ A Bronx Tale

Your big, audacious dream might be to marry the girl of your dreams and have a family with her. You risk might be to leave the career that you love in order to support her and your family. Your dream might be to help millions live longer, healthier lives. Whatever your dream is, give it enough of a chance to be realized.

Risk if you truly want to see the reward.

Find your dream. Then risk everything to get it.

 

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Note I enclosed with the Inspiration Angels being sent to Sandy Hook Elementary School

Dearest Sandy Hook Elementary Staff,

I can not come close to imagine as to what you are going through.  As a parent to a 4 year old daughter and a 10 year old son, it breaks my heart to think about you being witness to last Friday‘s incident.  I have created jewelry whose meaning is perfect for you to heal.  They are called Inspiration Angels.  The wings are connected so the wearer can spin them.  The meaning behind them is :”Spin the wings and Remember your Blessings”.  They are meant to remind the recipient of what to be grateful for in their life.  It may be tough to think of something after going through such a catastrophe but there is always something.  Whether it being the time you spent with such an inspiration and brave soul like Ms. Soto.  Or being one of the last people to see one of the children lost, one of their last smiles or being able to hear their last laughs as it cackled through the hallways or classroom that morning.

I personally want to thank every single one of you.  I am thankful for you!  You have a tough road ahead.  You have to be strong for the students.  You are so courageous for continuing your position but you will not be looked down upon if you need time away.  It is natural to find your release.  Without releasing, without reconnecting to your source and going through the proper grieving process you will not be any good to your students.  Please take your time.  Grab on to your Inspiration Angel, close your eyes and be thankful that you can move on and teach the most important lesson in Life : Teach the lesson of Love.

Love is contagious, Spread it wherever you go.

Thank you so much for teaching me.

Love is contagious, Spread it! Newtown Connecticut needs all of the love you can send!

My heart breaks but it is nothing compared to what they are going through. It is the least I can do. Love is contagious, Spread it!  Here are the Inspiration Angels that are on their way to Newtown, Connecticut.

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TBT Creations sending Inspiration Angels to Newtown Connecticut

I have the Inspiration Angels packaged with names of some of the staff of Sandy Hook Elementary School labelled with each Angel. It takes a lot out of me just to write their names down and have to leave a few out due to this catastrophe. I hope they will get to them..I know they will get to them and when they do it will be right when they need them. I wish this was under different circumstances but I know I am doing the work given to me. Now I have to write the letter that will go with them. This may take a while to get down, not that I will leave them a book but I may have to stop from time to time to collect myself. Thank you all for your support and kind words. Please take some time when you can to stop over to the Facebook page to lend a kind word and some support to that community :

You can find TBT Creations on Facebook.
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15 Things You Should Give Up To Be Happy

Thank you to wisdomquotesandstories.com … 

“Here is a list of 15 things which, if you give up on them, will make your life a lot easier and much, much happier. We hold on to so many things that cause us a great deal of pain, stress and suffering – and instead of letting them all go, instead of allowing ourselves to be stress free and happy – we cling on to them. Not anymore. Starting today we will give up on all those things that no longer serve us, and we will embrace change. Ready? Here we go:

1. GIVE UP YOUR NEED TO ALWAYS BE RIGHT

 There are so many of us who can’t stand the idea of being wrong – wanting to always be right – even at the risk of ending great relationships or causing a great deal of stress and pain, for us and for others. It’s just not worth it. Whenever you feel the ‘urgent’ need to jump into a fight over who is right and who is wrong, ask yourself this question: “Would I rather be right, or would I rather be kind?” Wayne Dyer. What difference will that make? Is your ego really that big?

2. GIVE UP YOUR NEED FOR CONTROL

 Be willing to give up your need to always control everything that happens to you and around you – situations, events, people, etc. Whether they are loved ones, coworkers, or just strangers you meet on the street – just allow them to be. Allow everything and everyone to be just as they are and you will see how much better will that make you feel. 

“By letting it go it all gets done. The world is won by those who let it go. But when you try and try. The world is beyond winning.” Lao Tzu

3. GIVE UP ON BLAME

 Give up on your need to blame others for what you have or don’t have, for what you feel or don’t feel. Stop giving your powers away and start taking responsibility for your life.

4. GIVE UP YOUR SELF-DEFEATING SELF-TALK

Oh my. How many people are hurting themselves because of their negative, polluted and repetitive self-defeating mindset? Don’t believe everything that your mind is telling you – especially if it’s negative and self-defeating. You are better than that.

“The mind is a superb instrument if used rightly. Used wrongly, however, it becomes very destructive.” Eckhart Tolle

5. GIVE UP YOUR LIMITING BELIEFS

about what you can or cannot do, about what is possible or impossible. From now on, you are no longer going to allow your limiting beliefs to keep you stuck in the wrong place. Spread your wings and fly!

“A belief is not an idea held by the mind, it is an idea that holds the mind” Elly Roselle

6. GIVE UP COMPLAINING

 Give up your constant need to complain about those many, many, maaany things – people, situations, events that make you unhappy, sad and depressed. Nobody can make you unhappy, no situation can make you sad or miserable unless you allow it to. It’s not the situation that triggers those feelings in you, but how you choose to look at it. Never underestimate the power of positive thinking.

7. GIVE UP THE LUXURY OF CRITICISM

Give up your need to criticize things, events or people that are different than you. We are all different, yet we are all the same. We all want to be happy, we all want to love and be loved and we all want to be understood. We all want something, and something is wished by us all.

8. GIVE UP YOUR NEED TO IMPRESS OTHERS

Stop trying so hard to be something that you’re not just to make others like you. It doesn’t work this way. The moment you stop trying so hard to be something that you’re not, the moment you take off all your masks, the moment you accept and embrace the real you, you will find people will be drawn to you, effortlessly.

9. GIVE UP YOUR RESISTANCE TO CHANGE

 Change is good. Change will help you move from A to B. Change will help you make improvements in your life and also the lives of those around you. Follow your bliss, embrace change – don’t resist it.“Follow your bliss and the universe will open doors for you where there were only walls” Joseph Campbell

10. GIVE UP LABELS

 Stop labeling those things, people or events that you don’t understand as being weird or different and try opening your mind, little by little. Minds only work when open. “The highest form of ignorance is when you reject something you don’t know anything about.” Wayne Dyer

11. GIVE UP ON YOUR FEARS

Fear is just an illusion, it doesn’t exist – you created it. It’s all in your mind. Correct the inside and the outside will fall into place.“The only thing we have to fear, is fear itself.” Franklin D. Roosevelt

12. GIVE UP YOUR EXCUSES

Send them packing and tell them they’re fired. You no longer need them. A lot of times we limit ourselves because of the many excuses we use. Instead of growing and working on improving ourselves and our lives, we get stuck, lying to ourselves, using all kind of excuses – excuses that 99.9% of the time are not even real.

13. GIVE UP THE PAST

I know, I know. It’s hard. Especially when the past looks so much better than the present and the future looks so frightening, but you have to take into consideration the fact that the present moment is all you have and all you will ever have. The past you are now longing for – the past that you are now dreaming about – was ignored by you when it was present. Stop deluding yourself. Be present in everything you do and enjoy life. After all life is a journey not a destination. Have a clear vision for the future, prepare yourself, but always be present in the now.

14. GIVE UP ATTACHMENT

This is a concept that, for most of us is so hard to grasp and I have to tell you that it was for me too, (it still is) but it’s not something impossible. You get better and better at with time and practice. The moment you detach yourself from all things, (and that doesn’t mean you give up your love for them – because love and attachment have nothing to do with one another,  attachment comes from a place of fear, while love… well, real love is pure, kind, and self less, where there is love there can’t be fear, and because of that, attachment and love cannot coexist) you become so peaceful, so tolerant, so kind, and so serene. You will get to a place where you will be able to understand all things without even trying. A state beyond words.

15. GIVE UP LIVING YOUR LIFE TO OTHER PEOPLE’S EXPECTATIONS

Way too many people are living a life that is not theirs to live. They live their lives according to what others think is best for them, they live their lives according to what their parents think is best for them, to what their friends, their enemies and their teachers, their government and the media think is best for them. They ignore their inner voice, that inner calling. They are so busy with pleasing everybody, with living up to other people’s expectations, that they lose control over their lives. They forget what makes them happy, what they want, what they need….and eventually they forget about themselves.  You have one life – this one right now – you must live it, own it, and especially don’t let other people’s opinions distract you from your path.”

 

Thee Gratitude Dude’s thoughts on this list:

–I am learning to do these exact same things…I promise you if you practice these as well, your life WILL become HAPPIER!  I PROMISE!  I am not going to say it is going to be easy at first…but once you get the hang of it, you will not be able to stop the Law of Attraction! I promise you!  No matter what your belief system is…whether you use mythological creatures or characters from centuries ago or you use poets and scholars from just inside the last century…PLEASE listen, read, practice, meditate/pray and it WILL help you change your mind!  It WILL ATTRACT what you WANT!  Light a candle in a quiet room, sit comfortably, close your eyes, breath deeply and slowly..you WILL relax and you WILL eventually clear your thoughts and begin to see and FEEL what you have been missing your entire life.  Forget what your father has said to you of his opinions on life, Forget what your mother has said to you about her opinions on life, your sister, your brother, your uncle, grandfather, grandmother etc….Don’t you think its time that you start thinking for yourself?  It may be the same way those others had thought, they may have been right but its time for you to start thinking for yourself!

The first 5 people to comment on this post will receive a FREE INSPIRATION ANGEL!!!!! Comment and then email me at TBTCREATIONS@GMAIL.COM with your address and I will mail one out to you by December 25th, 2012!!!

Swarovski Crystals with wings that spin! Spin the Wings & Remember your Blessings!!

Swarovski Crystals with wings that spin! Spin the Wings & Remember your Blessings!!

Thank you Ellen Degeneres, We are working on being kind to one another! YOU INSPIRE!

I am Jim Barger. My wife, Lori and I visited Shriner‘s Children’s Hospital in Lexington Kentucky this afternoon. We met the AMAZING staff and the INCREDIBLE KIDS there and were SO MOVED by them there is no way we will only keep it to one visit! Our mission is to let EVERYONE know how they, too, can help out in someway.  Whether it be a gift or just a smile and your time. Thank you Beth English and Bethany Alcorn for your awesome guidance! With your acceptance, we would LOVE to visit in the near future! And a very special Thank you to Ellen Degeneres and The Ellen Show!  You continue to inspire us to REALLY BE KIND TO ONE ANOTHER!!

 

My Quest to help, Ellen Degeneres, Are you Listening?

I am creating a new life. My life growing up and until recently has not been easy. From a poor upbringing, financially and literally, I have turned to writing, performing stand up comedy, being an artist, making Jewelry and T-Shirt designs, My life goal is to help people and to help my family change the vicious cycle. I want to write a book about my life someday soon. I know it would help others by hearing my story. I just need an outlet. I have a wonderful 4 yr old daughter. I also have a ten yr old son that I have not seen in a long time. He is with my ex-wife in Michigan. I miss him deeply. I am making the right changes and I look forward to showing him. My wife is an artist as well, in fact her gift to Ellen was Featured on the show on January 30th 2012, the New Orleans Saints Helmet Hat, she seemed to really like it. I make Inspiration Angels as well. I am hoping to get permission to go into the Shriner‘s Children’s Hospital to hand them out to the children and help them produce more hope.

 

The motto for the Angels is, “Spin the Wings, Remember your Blessings”, it helps produce positivity. Send it out and it comes back to you!

Thats what I am intending to do. Namaste.

Joe-Pa Statue is History

I keep on seeing posts about how the statue SHOULDN’T come down because it was raised because of his GENIUS to coach FOOTBALL….a GAME!??

THIS IS REAL LIFE !!! HIS TRUE SELF IS FLAWED TO THE POINT WHERE HE SET ASIDE THE SERIOUSNESS OF CHILDREN BEING RAPED OVER AND OVER AND OVER AGAIN so he could WIN MORE FOOTBALL GAMES! WHAT IS WRONG WITH YOU PEOPLE?!?! HIS REAL LIFE ACTIONS DON’T END AT THE SOUND OF A HORN OR WHEN TIME RUNS OUT! THIS LOSS SHALL NOT BE WIPED AWAY AND FORGOTTEN! BY NOT BEING A NORMAL HUMAN BEING WITH MORALS AND ANY COMMON SENSE & SAVING AND HELPING THOSE CHILDREN FROM BEING ATTACKED AND VICIOUSLY RAPED OVER AND OVER AGAIN.

……NOW IMAGINE THE STATUE FOR HIM IF HE WOULD HAVE DONE THE RIGHT THING!! WE WOULD HAVE BEEN TALKING ABOUT HIS FOOTBALL ACCOMPLISHMENTS BEING LEAST OF ACCOLADES!! IMAGINE WHAT KIND OF REAL HERO HE COULD HAVE BEEN.

A TRUE SUPERHERO. IMMORTAL.

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But now, let his name not EVER come up again. Only when bringing up an example of a coward.

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Paterno Statue

Paterno Statue

See YA!

Life is about dignity, how much do you have?

I am gaining ground on Twitter, connecting with fellow comics on Facebook and getting some material written and soon recorded for my Youtube channelhttp://www.youtube.com/user/pajamaMOUTHTV?feature=mhum .

I am trying to save my Comcast life by the 30th so everything that is to excel my career won’t get shut off.  I need to get the material out there and I need a get a paying job.  My state is not providing us with enough jobs but I don’t have any money to move either.  The ship is sinking.  I haven’t gotten a call back from TLC for the show they seemed so excited to have my family on.  My audition went great but I am not getting any response back from them even after a couple of emails.  I am staying professional as I should.  I know these things don’t happen overnight but I would just like a quick sentence of “Yay” or “Nay”.  With no money for gas to get to venues to do open mics…yadayadayada….life is at a standstill.  Then why do I have a smile on my face?  I have a smile on my face because I know things will turn around.  I have a smile on my face because right now a friend of mine is in an ambulance having his infant son being rushed to the hospital due to ongoing health problems from a premature birth meanwhile my son is having an enjoyable holiday weekend with my ex-wife and his cousins and my 3 year old daughter is sleeping safely in the other room with my wife.  MY family is healthy and alive.  We are broke but thats just money.  It will come back to us and as talented as my wife and I are with the fields that we are in and a part of our life, I KNOW we will be okay. We will be more than okay.  So what if Comcast gets shut off, it’ll be back on soon enough.  How will we get the money for that?  I don’t know but I know it will come.  Some of us don’t know whether our loved ones will live through the night or where our loved ones are living after searching for them for years.  My life is down right now…but it could be worse.  I know for a fact my friend would trade his worries for mine..in a heartbeat.

Money isn’t everything.  It makes some parts of life easier but it doesn’t heal physical wounds or emotional scars left behind from shitty parents or step-parents.  We all need to come together and heal one another through positive thoughts and prayers.  Help them and us find a way for strength and connection to get passed the pain and worry.  Instead of measuring a man by the amount in his checking account how about measuring him by the way he treats his children and fellow human beings. And not by the amount of money he gives but by the amount of time he spends taking accountability for his past indiscretions.  Answer the questions presented to you with as much honesty and vigor as you would if it had to do with your taxes…ah, well bad example…but no matter how tough the questions, remember silence is deafening, and only leads to assumptions.  And in that case, it only makes one of you look like an asshole.

Be kind to one another.

Life isn’t about status, its about dignity, how much you HAVE and how much you SHOW your fellow man.