The 10 Things Successful People Live By Before They Make It

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The 10 Things Successful People Live By Before They Make It

 

1. They didn’t use excuses.

We all have two voices. There’s the voice that tells us to work hard, to focus on the task at hand and to finish it before we move on to the next. And to finish it well.

We also have the voice that tells us to take a break, to think about what’s on TV, or to visit a site that we like to visit that entertains us – whether it’s ESPN.com or facebook.

In life we’re the victim of injustice from time to time. It could be a promotion that we deserve but don’t get. No matter who we are, we’re going to be treated unfairly at some point. We can either feel sorry for ourselves, or push forward and put it behind us – even use it as motivation.

Nelson Mandela could have used his unjust imprisonment as an excuse to give into his anger. Instead, he used it as an opportunity to learn, grow, and eventually free others.

Listen to your excuses. Understand why you have them. Then figure out how you can use them for good.

2. It wasn’t just about them.

‘Things’ can be a motivator, they can even be a reward, but they can’t be the motivator. The truly successful in life always get there because they created change in the lives of others, not just their own.

If something drives you that is greater than just the ‘ends’, we’re going to work harder, longer, and we’re going to give more of ourselves to our project.

Yes we can make money when we have the primary goal of making money. Some might even use that money for good – which is awesome. But there’s no fulfillment in simply making money. And isn’t that the point?

3. Early mornings and late nights.

People who have achieved true success in their lives have worked for it.

This might come at the detriment of other areas of their lives, such as family or social life. But their mission is first and foremost. Until it’s complete, everything else comes second.

There’s literally no substitute for hard work. Abraham Lincoln said, “Things may come to those who wait… but only the things left by those who hustle.” If you want to be successful, you’re going to have to out hustle everyone else.

4. The greatest commodity.

Energy is a huge commodity that is often not talked about. Yes, energy in the sense of fuel and electricity is talked about everywhere, but I’m talking about our own energy levels.

The fact is that the more energy we have, the easier it is to focus, and the higher the quality of our work is.

One of Richard Branson‘s ‘key’s to success’ is staying in great physical shape. So would raised energy levels be the greatest benefit to working out? It may be.

Keeping physically fit gives us greater blood-flow to our brain, enhanced alertness and improved focus. Make training a routine part of your life and increase your chances at success – in every meaning of the word.

5. Principles.

History will be kind to me. For I intend to write it.

Winston Churchill had principles. The difference between him and the rest of us, is that he stuck to his principles at all costs. He didn’t waver when they weren’t popular – an extreme rarity in politics.

What are your principles? All of us should have them, know what they are, and live our lives bythem.

One of Apple’s principles is to bring change to the world through technology, and they do it with every product they release.

Identify what principles you have that guide your life through tough times, and when things couldn’t be any better. They shouldn’t change, and at your core, neither should you.

6. Wavering, yet unbreakable faith.

We all have moments of doubt. Even the best of us question if our dream is going to come true. The one thing that separates the truly successful from those who never reach their true potential is an unbreakable faith in the fact that what they’re doing is right.

Even if they have moments of doubt, they’re soon quelled, where other’s listen to that doubt and let it eat them up and finally they quit.

Have your moments of doubt. You’re human. Just don’t let that doubt eat you up. Instead let it motivate you to prove your optimism right.

7. A reason.

Many of the greatest accomplishments in the world were accomplished by insecure men and women, people who had something to prove to others. A desire to elevate their status and create change that was so strong, that failure is simply never and option.

Abraham Lincoln‘s reason(s) had to do a lot with his view of himself in relation to how other’s viewed him. Where others saw a poor, illiterate boy, Lincoln saw someone capable of achieving more, even if he had to do it completely on his own. He also saw the need for change. A nation that preached freedom wasn’t free. He saw something fundamentally wrong with this and set out to change it. His why wasn’t about him. Which in turn made him one of history’s great men.

Understand why. You have that reason to work when others sleep, to sacrifice a safe life for a risky one with no ceiling. Find it by asking why, and not stopping until you hit your core, emotional reason for wanting to change your status, or the status of others.

8. They persevered when others didn’t.

How does the guy who quit on his dream know how long it would’ve taken him to become a success? He doesn’t. None of us do. It could be tomorrow, or ten years from now.

What separates a lot of the great people we read about in our history books from those we’ve never heard of is the fact that they never quit. Quitting was never an option. They only stopped when they reached their dream. And even then, they created a new mission.

Take James J. Braddock, or even Nelson Mandela, for example. They didn’t achieve their greatness or success early on in their careers or in life like some. They achieved it after surviving. They survived while others literally died, or quit. In their cases it wasn’t just that they were the best, but they were the best because of what they endured. They were the last one’s standing.

We don’t know when our breakthrough will come. So don’t guarantee your failure by quitting. You can adapt, change, and evolve, but never, never, never quit.

9. Great people relentlessly studied their craft.

Tony Gwynn and Mike Tyson studied their craft as much as anyone. Gwynn spent hours upon hours studying opposing pitchers. He studied their patterns. He wasn’t the most athletic guy around, but he put his work in to be the best at what he did: hit baseballs.

When people think of Tyson, they think of an animal, but what we fail to see is the student. No one studied boxing like Tyson did. Watched more film than anyone in the history of the sport. He was a student first, a fighter second.

These great athletes studied film, but how can we perfect our craft?

Using myself as an example; much of my job has to do with writing, and obviously fitness. So, I study those two things. I read books about how to become a better writer, ways to connect with the reader, and I simply read great books written by authors who are much better at writing than I am. If you’re in sales, read and study sales. If you’re a marketer, then do the same with marketing.

Being a drone that simply goes through the motions is no way to achieve greatness. Assuming success is something you want, you have to study your craft, whatever it may be. Learn it inside and out. Build a wealth of knowledge. It’ll help you create great, inspiring, and unique work.

10. Risk.

No risk, no reward. Yes it’s an over-used, cliché of a phrase. But it’s true. Those who have achieved real success have often risked the most to get there.

There have been billions of people throughout history who have had the ability to achieve greatness, whether it was the talent or smarts, they had it. What they didn’t have was the guts to risk the life that they were living. They also didn’t have the work ethic to see their talent realized.

The greatest tragedy in life is wasted talent ~ A Bronx Tale

Your big, audacious dream might be to marry the girl of your dreams and have a family with her. You risk might be to leave the career that you love in order to support her and your family. Your dream might be to help millions live longer, healthier lives. Whatever your dream is, give it enough of a chance to be realized.

Risk if you truly want to see the reward.

Find your dream. Then risk everything to get it.

 

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Thank you Chopra Center and Thank You Sandy Hook Elementary

I wanted to say thank you to the Chopra Center.  I took the 21 Day Meditation Challenge and upon completing it I was inspired to create my own path of giving.  I began to give many of my Inspiration Angels away to people in need around the country and the world.  I then ventured out on November 26, 2012 to the local Shriner‘s Children’s hospital in Lexington KY and gave away more Angels and met some amazingly strong children.  And then after hearing of the tragedy in Newtown Connecticut, I created Inspiration Angels using the colors of Sandy Hook Elementary and I sent the teachers and staff all of them.

I then visited the UK Children’s Hospital on January 9, 2013.  I met some more awesome parents and children fighting various ailments and diseases. I handed out more Angels and I hope I was able to give some comfort to them knowing that there are still humans on this planet that do care about eachother.  This was a tough visit.  I saw a lot of pain both physical and mental.  I can not imagine being those parents having to watch their little ones going through so much.  It took a lot out of me but I had gotten several messages the day before on my page that helped give me strength. They were from some truly amazing people, the teachers and staff and some parents of Sandy Hook Elementary.  They told me that they had received my Inspiration Angels and that they LOVED them.  They actually told me that when they walk down the halls and see them hanging around the necks of other teachers and staff that it gives them comfort and makes them smile.

I am so grateful that I have been able to give them this.  If they are able to feel that way after going through such a terrible experience…I finally know now what the feeling of love and appreciation feels like.  At the end of this week I will be sending 100 more Inspiration Angels to Sandy Hook for the rest of the staff.  I am also dedicating $3 per Angel sold to the Newtown Memorial Fund.  Please give, anything you can.  You too, can make a difference.  You just have to take that first step and it starts with Love.  Thank you Chopra Center for opening my eyes to true Love.  If you can, come visit my page and leave some messages of love to the teachers and staff that have left comments on my page.  I know they would be touched.  Give Love.

TBT Creations (Thoughts Become Things) – Facebook Page

Inspiration Angels, $3 per Angel goes to Newtown Memorial Fund – Etsy Page

 

 

 

Panic at the NRA and Gun owners Disco, We don’t want your handguns!!!

I am getting a little sick of the mass hysteria of the NRA and the other gun owners thinking Obama and the liberals want ALL of their guns!  Like Balky from Perfect Strangers would say, “Well of course not, Don’t be RidiculOOS!”

Let’s make this abundantly clear : You can have your handguns and your hunting rifles BUT give up and stop selling MILITARY STYLE WEAPONS such as ASSAULT RIFLES AND STOP PROVIDING 100 ROUND CLIPS!!!  This diversion of the facts and the truth is giving me a GOP headache that’s reminiscent of the Romney/Ryan campaign.  Seriously, this has got to stop!

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The weapons that killed the men, women and children in the movie theater in Colorado and that killed the women and children in Newtown Connecticut were military style assault rifles!  Not handguns!  The shooters had way too much ammo, 100 round clips, that should not be legal for anyone that is NOT in the military.  The hand gun that was used in Newtown was used to kill Adam Lanza.  I have nothing against that handgun.

Please, lets not get fooled into thinking that ALL of our guns are going to be collected….Just the ones that are made for mass destruction, that’s all.  You don’t need armor piercing bullets because deers don’t wear bullet proof vests…..you don’t need assault rifles with 100 round clips because those deers and wildlife you want to shoot are not assaulting you.

It’s time to get real!  Stop the panic, it’s not real!  I have a feeling that 2013 is going to bring a lot of change but, unfortunately, I think along with that change will bring a lot of resistance to that change by old institutions and old thinking.  I hope common sense will come out on top, actually I know it will but unfortunately, I think it will come with more heartache due to those that can not evolve.

 

Note I enclosed with the Inspiration Angels being sent to Sandy Hook Elementary School

Dearest Sandy Hook Elementary Staff,

I can not come close to imagine as to what you are going through.  As a parent to a 4 year old daughter and a 10 year old son, it breaks my heart to think about you being witness to last Friday‘s incident.  I have created jewelry whose meaning is perfect for you to heal.  They are called Inspiration Angels.  The wings are connected so the wearer can spin them.  The meaning behind them is :”Spin the wings and Remember your Blessings”.  They are meant to remind the recipient of what to be grateful for in their life.  It may be tough to think of something after going through such a catastrophe but there is always something.  Whether it being the time you spent with such an inspiration and brave soul like Ms. Soto.  Or being one of the last people to see one of the children lost, one of their last smiles or being able to hear their last laughs as it cackled through the hallways or classroom that morning.

I personally want to thank every single one of you.  I am thankful for you!  You have a tough road ahead.  You have to be strong for the students.  You are so courageous for continuing your position but you will not be looked down upon if you need time away.  It is natural to find your release.  Without releasing, without reconnecting to your source and going through the proper grieving process you will not be any good to your students.  Please take your time.  Grab on to your Inspiration Angel, close your eyes and be thankful that you can move on and teach the most important lesson in Life : Teach the lesson of Love.

Love is contagious, Spread it wherever you go.

Thank you so much for teaching me.

Love is contagious, Spread it! Newtown Connecticut needs all of the love you can send!

My heart breaks but it is nothing compared to what they are going through. It is the least I can do. Love is contagious, Spread it!  Here are the Inspiration Angels that are on their way to Newtown, Connecticut.

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Inspiration Angels are on there way to Sandy Hook Elementary School, Newtown Connecticut

I have created these necklaces for the purpose of those with heavy hearts and those that are going through rough times.  I think it fitting I send them to Sandy Hook Elementary School in Newtown Connecticut.

Being a parent of a 4 year old girl and a 10 year old boy myself, I can not imagine what they are going through right now.  I can not imagine getting the  phone call.  I can not imagine having to wait outside the school wondering if your child was alive or…  I can not imagine the dread and then sorrow one would feel getting the worst news ever possible.

I want the parents, teachers and staff of Sandy Hook Elementary to know that there ARE good people out there.  There ARE people that are sending them love and hope.  My Inspiration Angels are meant to give the wearer some hope.  They are meant to remind the wearer that there still is something to be grateful for.  During these times it will be tough to remember that.  There faith may be shaken, I understand.  Faith in humanity.  Faith in society.  Faith in government.  Faith in the good in the world.  Well I am here to show them one of the first signs that people not of there town or state DO care.  We are EVERYWHERE.  We are standing by Newtown Connecticut with are arms wide open.  With a tear running down our cheek letting them know to cry, to mourn and to remember those amazing children and teachers that lost there lives.  But remember them alive.  Remember the awesome times you shared a laugh with them.  The feelings you had when you witnessed them showing their love for someone else.  They were here on Earth to give us those memories.  We will not forget them.  Ever.

I am not only sending the Inspiration Angels to the school district but also to different churches in the community.  I am sending my entire supply.

And when they arrive to you Newtown remember to Spin those Wings and Remember your Blessings.  They will be watching and loving you from above.

“I am Adam Lanza’s Mother” It’s time to talk about mental illness. Written by Liza Long

Friday’s horrific national tragedy—the murder of 20 children and six adults at Sandy Hook Elementary School in New Town, Connecticut—has ignited a new discussion on violence in America. In kitchens and coffee shops across the country, we tearfully debate the many faces of violence in America: gun culture, media violence, lack of mental health services, overt and covert wars abroad, religion, politics and the way we raise our children. Liza Long, a writer based in Boise, says it’s easy to talk about guns. But it’s time to talk about mental illness.

Three days before 20 year-old Adam Lanza killed his mother, then opened fire on a classroom full of Connecticut kindergartners, my 13-year old son Michael (name changed) missed his bus because he was wearing the wrong color pants.

“I can wear these pants,” he said, his tone increasingly belligerent, the black-hole pupils of his eyes swallowing the blue irises.

“They are navy blue,” I told him. “Your school’s dress code says black or khaki pants only.”

“They told me I could wear these,” he insisted. “You’re a stupid bitch. I can wear whatever pants I want to. This is America. I have rights!”

“You can’t wear whatever pants you want to,” I said, my tone affable, reasonable. “And you definitely cannot call me a stupid bitch. You’re grounded from electronics for the rest of the day. Now get in the car, and I will take you to school.”

I live with a son who is mentally ill. I love my son. But he terrifies me.

A few weeks ago, Michael pulled a knife and threatened to kill me and then himself after I asked him to return his overdue library books. His 7 and 9 year old siblings knew the safety plan—they ran to the car and locked the doors before I even asked them to. I managed to get the knife from Michael, then methodically collected all the sharp objects in the house into a single Tupperware container that now travels with me. Through it all, he continued to scream insults at me and threaten to kill or hurt me.

That conflict ended with three burly police officers and a paramedic wrestling my son onto a gurney for an expensive ambulance ride to the local emergency room. The mental hospital didn’t have any beds that day, and Michael calmed down nicely in the ER, so they sent us home with a prescription for Zyprexa and a follow-up visit with a local pediatric psychiatrist.

We still don’t know what’s wrong with Michael. Autism spectrum, ADHD, Oppositional Defiant or Intermittent Explosive Disorder have all been tossed around at various meetings with probation officers and social workers and counselors and teachers and school administrators. He’s been on a slew of antipsychotic and mood altering pharmaceuticals, a Russian novel of behavioral plans. Nothing seems to work.

At the start of seventh grade, Michael was accepted to an accelerated program for highly gifted math and science students. His IQ is off the charts. When he’s in a good mood, he will gladly bend your ear on subjects ranging from Greek mythology to the differences between Einsteinian and Newtonian physics to Doctor Who. He’s in a good mood most of the time. But when he’s not, watch out. And it’s impossible to predict what will set him off.

Several weeks into his new junior high school, Michael began exhibiting increasingly odd and threatening behaviors at school. We decided to transfer him to the district’s most restrictive behavioral program, a contained school environment where children who can’t function in normal classrooms can access their right to free public babysitting from 7:30-1:50 Monday through Friday until they turn 18.

The morning of the pants incident, Michael continued to argue with me on the drive. He would occasionally apologize and seem remorseful. Right before we turned into his school parking lot, he said, “Look, Mom, I’m really sorry. Can I have video games back today?”

“No way,” I told him. “You cannot act the way you acted this morning and think you can get your electronic privileges back that quickly.”

His face turned cold, and his eyes were full of calculated rage. “Then I’m going to kill myself,” he said. “I’m going to jump out of this car right now and kill myself.”

That was it. After the knife incident, I told him that if he ever said those words again, I would take him straight to the mental hospital, no ifs, ands, or buts. I did not respond, except to pull the car into the opposite lane, turning left instead of right.

“Where are you taking me?” he said, suddenly worried. “Where are we going?”

“You know where we are going,” I replied.

“No! You can’t do that to me! You’re sending me to hell! You’re sending me straight to hell!”

I pulled up in front of the hospital, frantically waiving for one of the clinicians who happened to be standing outside. “Call the police,” I said. “Hurry.”

Michael was in a full-blown fit by then, screaming and hitting. I hugged him close so he couldn’t escape from the car. He bit me several times and repeatedly jabbed his elbows into my rib cage. I’m still stronger than he is, but I won’t be for much longer.

The police came quickly and carried my son screaming and kicking into the bowels of the hospital. I started to shake, and tears filled my eyes as I filled out the paperwork—“Were there any difficulties with… at what age did your child… were there any problems with.. has your child ever experienced.. does your child have…”

At least we have health insurance now. I recently accepted a position with a local college, giving up my freelance career because when you have a kid like this, you need benefits. You’ll do anything for benefits. No individual insurance plan will cover this kind of thing.

For days, my son insisted that I was lying—that I made the whole thing up so that I could get rid of him. The first day, when I called to check up on him, he said, “I hate you. And I’m going to get my revenge as soon as I get out of here.”

By day three, he was my calm, sweet boy again, all apologies and promises to get better. I’ve heard those promises for years. I don’t believe them anymore.

On the intake form, under the question, “What are your expectations for treatment?” I wrote, “I need help.”

And I do. This problem is too big for me to handle on my own. Sometimes there are no good options. So you just pray for grace and trust that in hindsight, it will all make sense.

I am sharing this story because I am Adam Lanza’s mother. I am Dylan Klebold’s and Eric Harris’s mother. I am Jason Holmes’s mother. I am Jared Loughner’s mother. I am Seung-Hui Cho’s mother. And these boys—and their mothers—need help. In the wake of another horrific national tragedy, it’s easy to talk about guns. But it’s time to talk about mental illness.

According to Mother Jones, since 1982, 61 mass murders involving firearms have occurred throughout the country. Of these, 43 of the killers were white males, and only one was a woman. Mother Jones focused on whether the killers obtained their guns legally (most did). But this highly visible sign of mental illness should lead us to consider how many people in the U.S. live in fear, like I do.

When I asked my son’s social worker about my options, he said that the only thing I could do was to get Michael charged with a crime. “If he’s back in the system, they’ll create a paper trail,” he said. “That’s the only way you’re ever going to get anything done. No one will pay attention to you unless you’ve got charges.”

I don’t believe my son belongs in jail. The chaotic environment exacerbates Michael’s sensitivity to sensory stimuli and doesn’t deal with the underlying pathology. But it seems like the United States is using prison as the solution of choice for mentally ill people. According to Human Rights Watch, the number of mentally ill inmates in U.S. prisons quadrupled from 2000 to 2006, and it continues to rise—in fact, the rate of inmate mental illness is five times greater (56 percent) than in the non-incarcerated population.

With state-run treatment centers and hospitals shuttered, prison is now the last resort for the mentally ill—Rikers Island, the LA County Jail and Cook County Jail in Illinois housed the nation’s largest treatment centers in 2011.

No one wants to send a 13-year old genius who loves Harry Potter and his snuggle animal collection to jail. But our society, with its stigma on mental illness and its broken healthcare system, does not provide us with other options. Then another tortured soul shoots up a fast food restaurant. A mall. A kindergarten classroom. And we wring our hands and say, “Something must be done.”

I agree that something must be done. It’s time for a meaningful, nation-wide conversation about mental health. That’s the only way our nation can ever truly heal.

God help me. God help Michael. God help us all.

(Originally published at The Anarchist Soccer Mom.)

liza long is an author, musician, and erstwhile classicist. she is also a single mother of four bright, loved children, one of whom has special needs.
This article needs to read and shared by ALL and finally it needs to understood before it is too late……again.

Sandy Elementary Shooting and Gun Laws, Who are these laws really protecting?

I can barely speak nor type about the tragedy in Newton, Conn.  An Elementary school? REALLY???!!!!  A mall yesterday and now a children’s school today….when are these “Right to bare arms” laws going to start protecting us??? Whose Constitutional rights are being protected?  Ours or the killers?  The victims or the murderer?

We keep hearing about how “we” have to protect our Gun Rights so we can Protect ourselves from those that want to hurt us but ALL I keep seeing is how those Gun Rights keep guns in the hands of those that WANT to harm us…when I hear a story of how someone with those same Gun rights have PREVENTED somebody from creating this type of horrendous act then I will be on board but until then we need to TAKE AWAY the guns FIRST and then give them to those that are mentally stable…

AGAIN GUNS HAVE NEVER PREVENTED THIS KIND OF THING FROM HAPPENING, IT HAS ONLY CREATED THE PROBLEM!!!

AND NO, ABSOLUTELY NOT, IT IS NOT THE ANSWER TO ARM OUR TEACHERS, SALES CLERKS AND CITIZENS!!!

WE WERE ALL ARMED ONCE REMEMBER? IT WAS CALLED THE OLD WEST AND THERE WERE KILLINGS EVERY MINUTE OF THE DAY! HENCE THE REASON GUN LAWS WERE MADE!!!

I need to wrap my head around this before I can write anymore.  I have a 4 yr old daughter with me right now and I have a 10 yr old son that lives with his mother, my ex-wife…..I can’t imagine getting the phone call that about 18 sets of parents have gotten today.  Please remember that when you are standing up for your rights to have and to hold your weapons…..Please remember that your children are the ones that you need to have and to hold on to because there are too many families today that can not do that any longer.

We all need to close our eyes and think hard about this and learn and know what is truly important : LOVE.  Love one another.  Feel amazing feelings and know that LOVE is the only way to prevent these type of tragedies.  You don’t need a license to get LOVE.  You just need patience and understanding.  Access to LOVE instead of GUNS could have prevent this from happening.  We will probably find out that the gunman was mentally unstable and killed his parents, the body at his home and his mother that worked in the school….maybe they were in the process of getting him help or maybe they ignored the signs until it was too late…either way if you know someone that shows signs of being mentally unstable PLEASE MAKE SURE YOUR GUNS ARE NOT WITHIN THEIR REACH OR IF YOU KNOW THAT THEY HAVE GUNS AND BULLET PROOF VESTS THEN CALL THE DAMN POLICE!!!!  TELL SOMEONE!!!  COMMUNICATE BEFORE THIS EVER HAPPENS AGAIN!  STOP THINKING IT WON’T HAPPEN THERE!  STOP THINKING “HE” OR “SHE” WOULD NEVER……well they can and they would and they will if nothing is done to prevent it.