21 Habits of Happy People – There is so much we can Learn

As I post this I am learning along with you.  I hope you enjoy these ideas.  I sure am!

 

Happiness is a habit – cultivate it.” ~ Elbert Hubbar

“Happiness is one aspiration all people share. No one wants to be sad and depressed.
We’ve all seen people who are always happy – even amidst agonizing life trials. I’m not saying happy people don’t feel grief, sorrow or sadness; they just don’t let it overtake their life. The following are 21 things happy people make a habit of doing:
1. Appreciate Life

Be thankful that you woke up alive each morning. Develop a childlike sense of wonder towards life. Focus on the beauty of every living thing. Make the most of each day. Don’t take anything for granted. Don’t sweat the small stuff.

2. Choose Friends Wisely

Surround yourself with happy, positive people who share your values and goals. Friends that have the same ethics as you will encourage you to achieve your dreams. They help you to feel good about yourself. They are there to lend a helping hand when needed.

3. Be Considerate

Accept others for who they are as well as where they are in life. Respect them for who they are. Touch them with a kind and generous spirit. Help when you are able, without trying to change the other person. Try to brighten the day of everyone you come into contact with.

4. Learn Continuously

Keep up to date with the latest news regarding your career and hobbies. Try new and daring things that has sparked your interest – such as dancing, skiing, surfing or sky-diving.

5. Creative Problem Solving

Don’t wallow in self-pity. As soon as you face a challenge get busy finding a solution. Don’t let the set backs affect your mood, instead see each new obstacle you face as an opportunity to make a positive change. Learn to trust your gut instincts – it’s almost always right.

6. Do What They Love

Some statistics show that 80% of people dislike their jobs! No wonder there’s so many unhappy people running around. We spend a great deal of our life working. Choose a career that you enjoy – the extra money of a job you detest isn’t worth it. Make time to enjoy your hobbies and pursue special interests.

7. Enjoy Life

Take the time to see the beauty around you. There’s more to life than work. Take time to smell the roses, watch a sunset or sunrise with a loved one, take a walk along the seashore, hike in the woods etc. Learn to live in the present moment and cherish it. Don’t live in the past or the future.

8. Laugh

Don’t take yourself – or life to seriously. You can find humor in just about any situation. Laugh at yourself – no one’s perfect. When appropriate laugh and make light of the circumstances. (Naturally there are times that you should be serious as it would be improper to laugh.)

9. Forgive

Holding a grudge will hurt no one but you. Forgive others for your own peace of mind. When you make a mistake – own up to it – learn from it – and FORGIVE yourself.

10. Gratitude

Develop an attitude of gratitude. Count your blessings; All of them – even the things that seem trivial. Be grateful for your home, your work and most importantly your family and friends. Take the time to tell them that you are happy they are in your life.

11. Invest in Relationships

Always make sure your loved ones know you love them even in times of conflict. Nurture and grow your relationships with your family and friends by making the time to spend with them. Don’t break your promises to them. Be supportive.

12. Keep Their Word

Honesty is the best policy. Every action and decision you make should be based on honesty. Be honest with yourself and with your loved ones.

13. Meditate

Meditation gives your very active brain a rest. When it’s rested you will have more energy and function at a higher level. Types of meditation include yoga, hypnosis, relaxation tapes, affirmations, visualization or just sitting in complete silence. Find something you enjoy and make the time to practice daily.

14. Mind Their Own Business

Concentrate on creating your life the way you want it. Take care of you and your family. Don’t get overly concerned with what other people are doing or saying. Don’t get caught up with gossip or name calling. Don’t judge. Everyone has a right to live their own life the way they want to – including you.

15. Optimism

See the glass as half full. Find the positive side of any given situation. It’s there – even though it may be hard to find. Know that everything happens for a reason, even though you may never know what the reason is. Steer clear of negative thoughts. If a negative thought creeps in – replace it with a positive thought.

16. Love Unconditionally

Accept others for who they are. You don’t put limitations on your love. Even though you may not always like the actions of your loved ones – you continue to love them.

17. Persistence

Never give up. Face each new challenge with the attitude that it will bring you one step closer to your goal. You will never fail, as long as you never give up. Focus on what you want, learn the required skills, make a plan to succeed and take action. We are always happiest while pursuing something of value to us.

18. Be Proactive

Accept what can not be changed. Happy people don’t waste energy on circumstances beyond their control. Accept your limitations as a human being. Determine how you can take control by creating the outcome you desire – rather than waiting to respond.

19. Self Care

Take care of your mind, body and health. Get regular medical check ups. Eat healthy and work out. Get plenty of rest. Drink lots of water. Exercise your mind by continually energizing it with interesting and exciting challenges.

20. Self Confidence

Don’t try to be someone that you’re not. After all no one likes a phony. Determine who you are in the inside – your own personal likes and dislikes. Be confident in who you are. Do the best you can and don’t second guess yourself.

21. Take Responsibility

Happy people know and understand that they are 100% responsible for their life. They take responsibility for their moods, attitude, thoughts, feelings, actions and words. They are the first to admit when they’ve made a mistake.

Begin today by taking responsibility for your happiness. Work on developing these habits as you own. The more you incorporate the above habits into your daily lifestyle – the happier you will be.

Most of all: BE TRUE TO YOURSELF.”

 

~ What FABULOUS last words of advice, Yes, Let us ALL ‘BE TRUE TO OURSELVES’ !!

I hope you enjoyed this lesson as much as I did.  I will be coming back to this often to remind myself where I need to be.

This is from : Mind Openerz – 21 Habits of Happy People

 

~~~Thee Gratitude Dude

 

Sandy Elementary Shooting and Gun Laws, Who are these laws really protecting?

I can barely speak nor type about the tragedy in Newton, Conn.  An Elementary school? REALLY???!!!!  A mall yesterday and now a children’s school today….when are these “Right to bare arms” laws going to start protecting us??? Whose Constitutional rights are being protected?  Ours or the killers?  The victims or the murderer?

We keep hearing about how “we” have to protect our Gun Rights so we can Protect ourselves from those that want to hurt us but ALL I keep seeing is how those Gun Rights keep guns in the hands of those that WANT to harm us…when I hear a story of how someone with those same Gun rights have PREVENTED somebody from creating this type of horrendous act then I will be on board but until then we need to TAKE AWAY the guns FIRST and then give them to those that are mentally stable…

AGAIN GUNS HAVE NEVER PREVENTED THIS KIND OF THING FROM HAPPENING, IT HAS ONLY CREATED THE PROBLEM!!!

AND NO, ABSOLUTELY NOT, IT IS NOT THE ANSWER TO ARM OUR TEACHERS, SALES CLERKS AND CITIZENS!!!

WE WERE ALL ARMED ONCE REMEMBER? IT WAS CALLED THE OLD WEST AND THERE WERE KILLINGS EVERY MINUTE OF THE DAY! HENCE THE REASON GUN LAWS WERE MADE!!!

I need to wrap my head around this before I can write anymore.  I have a 4 yr old daughter with me right now and I have a 10 yr old son that lives with his mother, my ex-wife…..I can’t imagine getting the phone call that about 18 sets of parents have gotten today.  Please remember that when you are standing up for your rights to have and to hold your weapons…..Please remember that your children are the ones that you need to have and to hold on to because there are too many families today that can not do that any longer.

We all need to close our eyes and think hard about this and learn and know what is truly important : LOVE.  Love one another.  Feel amazing feelings and know that LOVE is the only way to prevent these type of tragedies.  You don’t need a license to get LOVE.  You just need patience and understanding.  Access to LOVE instead of GUNS could have prevent this from happening.  We will probably find out that the gunman was mentally unstable and killed his parents, the body at his home and his mother that worked in the school….maybe they were in the process of getting him help or maybe they ignored the signs until it was too late…either way if you know someone that shows signs of being mentally unstable PLEASE MAKE SURE YOUR GUNS ARE NOT WITHIN THEIR REACH OR IF YOU KNOW THAT THEY HAVE GUNS AND BULLET PROOF VESTS THEN CALL THE DAMN POLICE!!!!  TELL SOMEONE!!!  COMMUNICATE BEFORE THIS EVER HAPPENS AGAIN!  STOP THINKING IT WON’T HAPPEN THERE!  STOP THINKING “HE” OR “SHE” WOULD NEVER……well they can and they would and they will if nothing is done to prevent it.